Señor Caliente is right about the definition. You'd think doing porn is illegal because people are having sex for money, but it's not. The reason is because it is a performance, not for sexual the sexual act itself. Lapdancing is a performance too.
I don't disagree with either of you. I'm not complaining about no one sharing their sexual stories. My point was that the overall quality and lack of bias in the reviews has gone down a little. For example, do you think anyone will ever post a negative review of someone at VIP knowing that the dancers who post here will get upset? In fact, I can only think of one negative that has been posted at all since this site re-opened and it was of a dancer at Rio where none of the girls here work.
And yes, lapdancing is a performance and it varies from dancer to dancer. And I do believe people on here are reluctant to offer criticism of a girl's dancing other than egregious things (like being a ROB or air dancing). Talking about the quality of a dancer's interactions (the grind, eye contact, etc....) below "mileage" is the thing that seems to be missing, as if people are afraid to say they got a dance that didnt have enough of those things because if they do, the dancers will think they are just mileage hounds.
senior caliente said:
I don't think we have to, the girls themselves have let their character show in the posts they make themselves.
Which is fine for the maybe 7 who post regularly, but it doesn't really help outside that. Moreover, there is a difference between being pleasant and likable to an anonymous person on the site who you communicate with (but may never meet) and dealing with a customer who does not out themselves.
The point here is that the site has changed since the reboot, which is what I noted from Carmen's orginal post. She said she felt like people might be censoring themselves since the dancers are around. I was commenting that I felt she was correct.
Edited to add: My comment about negative posts wasn't directed at not criticizing the dancers who post here, but rather criticizing dancers in general.