They won't even try to approach. Back of the line pass, if you cross her. I once was a regular to a dancer. I would always get a dance from her everytime I went in the club. I'd show up late, with a bunch of PL's in line for her, but she would go to me first giving me a front of the line pass. I wanted a change of pace since the last 5 times I went to the club, it was all "old dancer." I saw a "new dancer" I have always wanted to try out. I denied "old dancer" a dance, because the last 5 times in the club, it was all her. "Old dancer" got pissed off. Everytime I went in after that incident, she always hits up other PL's first, then comes to me. My front of the line pass, turned into a back of the line pass.
I had a similar situation with a girl but she employeed the "nuclear option"
Apparently after i turned her down for a dance and got one from a different girl i became persona non grata. I had been a regular at the club, the next time i went in no one would talk to me, not the doorman not the waitresses, not the bartender. I thought WTF? finally i approached a waitress and asked her if a particular dancer was available
"she's busy" she snapped
"what about..." but she quickly cut me off
"they're all busy!"
Now i imagine some tall tale was told at the club. I waited awhile for things to cool down. i showed up again at the club about a month later and a girl who i had gotten some great dances with reluctantly agreed to dance with me. The dances were pretty damn cold especially in comparison to before.Totally ruined the club for me. My "regular" who told the big lie eventually left the club, the girl i danced with instead of her got fired even though she was a top earner at the club.
While it sucks to have other PL's in line in front of you things could be alot worse.
The newbies or real young ones is where it happen to me once I tried them once they thought they own me when they saw me coming in for next time.
God! I know what you mean. There was this one time, I danced with this "young one" once ,18/19 years old. After the first set of laps, she started hounding after that. She went as far as telling the other dancers that I was stalking her. Luckly, I was a regular at the club, all the dancer knew me. Eventually, we all had good laugh out of it. But if I was just starting at the club, I can't even imagine how f***ked up that would been for me. I would have been 86ed by most of the dancers.
It's happen to me before where I've gotten Mad stare down's, But most have been cool with me and don't give me any real heat about it. It's usually the veterans that know It's ok to try other Meat.
Knotty Well my little bit of drama was with a well thought of Jedi, she told me the same thing, the girls who have been around do not take it personally, blah blah blah. Unfortunately i forgot rule #1 never believe what a woman tells you.
Like an idiot i thought she was being sincere when she said it was ok to dance with someone else. When i did, i not only lost my favorite dancerS, but the whole club changed. Even though those people are no longer there, the few times i have returned the bad memories come flooding back. I think it is just better to not have any girl consider you a regular, it seems like fun but is really counterproductive to the reason for going to a club in the first place. Easy going fun and when you walk out the door it's over.
Dancer Doxastic said:
Disadvantages: - ....."even if we have a good connection a regular will ALWAYS remain a customer. There is no chance in hell that I'll ever think of you in another way."
Manual, thats ANOTHER Disadvantage to having her be your Regular girl. Once she finds out that she's IT, she'll stop thinking of you as a Man and she'll start thinking of you as just an ATM Machine that just spits out cash. You're better off spreading your cash around instead of just giving it all to Just One girl. I hope you're learning from this.
Dancer Doxastic said:
^ I was thinking of one regular I have in particular right now who is truly hoping that I will fall in love with him, quit stripping, and let him take care of me.
@DancerDoxastic: Thanks for answering this! The advantages for you would be a disadvantage for me, and maybe the other way around, LOL! I always thought the benefit of being a regular is less tipping, not more tipping. But I think the disadvantages are the same for a dancer and a regular: Guys become obsessively attached, or dancers become too possessive of their regulars, and feeling obligated to get a dance from the dancer, or dancer feeling obligated to tend to the regular.
I think there are two types of PL:
1. Guys who go to clubs to see naked girls. In other words, horn dogs and mileage hounds.
2. Guys who are looking for company. They’re want to make emotional connections. They want their big head stimulated more than their little one.
DD’s customers are basically type 2 PL. I would be a type 1 PL. So for me, to become a dancer’s regular, I’m looking for higher mileage and lower cost.