It seems like you are overly defensive or naive about situation.
I bet if we look statistics, women working in sex industry have higher chance of being abused, etc, and are more likely to be drug abuser, mental disease, etc.
So your claim a lot of civvies are "far more screwed up" doesn't hold much merit. Plus dating a women who is or used to be a sex worker-there is a much greater chance she will cheat on you. My ex favorite used to kiss me on the mouth during dances-she has a HUSBAND. Another one makes out with me and lets me touch her pussy-she is not single either.
There are guys who have married hookers, escorts, strippers, etc. Guess what? Their old ladies suck and fuck behind their back. Many times, they keep in touch with "former clients"-hubbie won't find out if she does it on the down low and pockets an extra couple of hundred for herself. Hard to walk away from easy money brutha.
Only on a hooker board will you find guys extolling virtue of dating sex workers. I have been around enough to know more trouble than they worth.
And guy who was "stalked" by ex girlfriend for 2 years. You can blame yourself for not being man enough to stand up to her and bring in law enforcement to take care the situation.
Be Well,
Monga
melikiblondes said:
Alot of "civvies" are far more screwed up than any stripper. I have met and worked with alot of nutjobs, I can't even began to tell you. Believe it or not some of the people in the sex industry are the much more balanced and "normal" than people outside of it. My best friend married an escort. She is a sweetheart, very smart business wise and street wise. An just a good person, very well adjusted. They have been married ten years now and everything is great. They have a nice family with kids. If he had an attitude like yours he would have passed up a great woman & a great life...
Civies are more screwed up than sex industry workers? You can call me what you want but the truth is you are lving in fantasy land. Notice how you cannot answer FACTS and have to resort to personal attacks? Get real pal.
Marry a hooker/stripper/escort/massage girl and chances are you are going to be divorced or have a LOT of headaches. More than with a regular civie. A good friend of mine married an ex stripper who danced at Venus in Stanton? Guess what, she's nuttier than squirrel shit!
As I said, only on a HOOKER board would you find some losers defending dating or marrying sex industry workers.
And yes you are a pansy for not getting a restraining order against your ex. We know who wore the pants in that relationship.
Keep flaming away guys. You only make yourselves look more like fool. I bet there are a ton of dancer who read this and agree.
Go to club and pay the services you want, If you want to fuck, go ahead. If you want to cuddle and talk, go ahead.
But try to date them, you will be sorry! The lies, the drugs, the lack of education, you cannot make a whore into a housewife.
Monga
melikiblondes said:
Monga you are an idiot. Either that or pretty darn short on life experience. Civvies are more screwed up but you have just not experienced them. You can't bring in law enforcement when
your job has you on the road for the two years, you know nothing of the situation. By the time you file something you are in another jurisdiction. Just because you can't imagine something because it does not fit into your narrow view of the world you believe you have a nice simple answer. Just because the people you have experience with cheat does not mean everyone does. You have had bad experiences like ilikaps points out and it tarnishes your view of the world. Thats fine live in a world where you believe you know it all and control everything. Guess what you really know nothing and controll nothing but denial is ok for you so be it.
Ronin said:
We haven't had any of the ladies post about this topic. Ladies if you'd like to stay anonymous, you can PM your response and I'll post it.
There is no way any dancer's ever going to state an opinion on this issue. It's a no win situation for them.
If they say they never have, then they'll lose the ability to hustle customers by pretending to like them/might fall for them. Since most dancers rely on this tactic to a certain extent, it'd be fatal to tell people they never fall for customers.
Conversely, if they do say they have, they open themselves up to guys believing the dancer might fall for them if they have the right "game."
Either way, answering here would be a problem for any dancer.
Manual said:
I don't think we have had a dancer in this thread yet.
Which was my point. The original poster asked for dancers and customers. I said you'd never get a dancer to respond.
Just to keep the conversation going, I'll answer the original question. I have fallen for a dancer before. UNfortunately, as it invariably is, it was one sided and pure hustle on her part. Despite knowing better, I fell for it. During the couple months of the "relationship," I ended up pretty much running through the entire gamut of stupid ass PL cliches, from shopping trips to vacations to spending way too much on her in the club.
It was pure stupidity on my part and I wish I could say I learned my lesson, but I still try to give everyone, even dancers, the benefit of the doubt. Some dancers have been worth it and not taken advantage, some have not. At least I'm smart enough now (well most of the time anyway) to catch a clue quick enough to cut it off when its all hustle.
Ronin said:
We haven't had any of the ladies post about this topic. Ladies if you'd like to stay anonymous, you can PM your response and I'll post it.
Has anyone actually taken you up on this?
Dani said:
I guess i'll be the brave one here.. and i only say that because this topic has raised a lot of negativity and stripper stereo types to the max! but yes I did, 4 years ago & i dated the guy for 3 years .. I started dancing 5 years ago when i graduated high school, back than i danced for a year going by the name Trisha, I weighed probably only 100lbs had long dark hair and had a major thing for bad boys! he was 27 and played the drums for a local metal band, I was in love!! also a lot of my fellow dancers knew him well and went to party's at his house down the street so i knew he was a safe dude .. but you cant base an entire relationship on looks and the "bad boy appeal" so that relationship was destined for failure! even tho the sex was AMAZING! there was not much else to it..
Thank you for being the one to take the plunge. Kidding aside, it's nice that you would respond.
The irony of your story is that (speaking of stripper stereotypes, LOL) is that if you had asked any of us to guess whether a dancer had dated a customer, most of us would have guessed a story like yours. I've known other dancers with the same story, bad boy comes in to the club, doesn't play the pl game and the dancer falls for him.
I admit my unrealistic fantasy response would have been a dancer coming in and saying she fell for a customer who was kind and nice to her and was a professional, but somethings are way too far fetched, even for fantasies. :p
Ronin said:
I am very happy this topic has generated so much discussion and participation. I hope it continues to do so. I will not post any private PMs unless the person specifically tell me to. I have had some very interesting PMs and emails about this subject. I am in the process of rewriting responses from people who wanted it posted but without any reference to who they are. I am on assignment for a few more days and then I will start posting the stories including my own. I do have to say there are some very positive ones as well as some sad ones. Till, my friend's love affair will surprise you. His sons high school graduation is coming up. Guess where he met his wife ;) Stat tuned!
Nice! I have seen another couple like that, where they met in a club.
I think it will be interesting to see some responses, especially from dancers posted anonymously.
Dani said:
I started dancing 5 years ago ....and had a Major thing for Bad Boys! I was in love!! .....the Sex was AMAZING!.......so that relationship was destined for failure!
on her and she fell for HIM! Nice!
#2 AMAZING SEX! ....and lots of it! 
#3 The "relationship" doesn't last very long - This is probably the best part, you can get on with your life and move onto the Next Girl. 
